Is Everyone Jealous of You?

Ever heard the saying "You just hate me cause you ain't me!"? While there may be some truth to this statement, there may be a bit of self denial going on...let me explain. In listening to some people talk, post, and just watching TV in general, people love to say "They're just jealous." Is this always the case? I doubt it...so out of my own irritation with the saying, I decided to share this tidbit of information:

PLEASE STOP USING  THE CRUTCH OF JEALOUSY AS AN EXCUSE FOR YOU TO NOT DEAL WITH YOUR OWN CHARACTER FLAWS!!!

Surprise, Surprise- Just because someone does not get along with you or care to deal with you, it does not mean that they in any way envy you, want to be you or be anything like you. You might just have an abrasive personality/attitude and they don't want to tolerate your foolishness so they may call you out on your nonsense. They don't have the issue-- you do! So stop saying that others are just jealous of you just to make yourself feel better and quit surrounding yourself with individuals that feed into you being an egomaniac. These individuals most likely lack integrity and are more like leeches than friends, kind of like the weaklings that drug lords keep around them. As much as you like to think so, it is not all about you all of the time. Should you be confident and love yourself? Absolutely! Should that come at the expense of you mistreating, disrespecting, and belittling others? Absolutely not!  Yes there are real haters out there and yes your true haters should be your motivators, but also consider that the real 'hating' may actually be of thyself and thine own deep rooted issues that you have failed to deal with. Don't worry-take that to God and I promise you that the Blood of Jesus can fix all of that!

If you are actually a hater, please stop focusing so much of your energy on others and being in there business. Do you realize how much more productive your life could be if you focused a third of that time on getting your own act together? Hmmm...food for thought! Like Ice Cube said- "You Better Check yo self  before you Wreck yo self!" The rest of us will just pray for you till change comes! ;-)

Be Blessed!

Qualities of a Diva by Michelle McKinney Hammond

What is a diva? Per the dictionary: a distinguished female singer; prima donna; often used negatively to describe a celebrity in film or music who is extremely demanding and fussy when it comes to personal privileges.

Divas have gotten a bad name in the past.  They were seen as fabulous women who knew they were fabulous, swaying to the side of vanity and high maintenance.  I maintain a truly divine diva is none of the above.  She is a woman who knows that life is not about her but rather the contribution she makes to others around her and the legacy she will leave behind.

Divas never just walk into a room, they arrive!  Their bearing and manner sends the signal loud and clear that "I am a woman set apart."  They never exit a room without leaving a part of themselves behind. A rich deposit of wisdom, an encouraging word, something seemingly intangible yet profound, that leaves a lasting impression on the hearts of those who interacted with them.

A Diva lives a centered life. Centered in the knowledge of her God, her purpose, and what is truly important.  Because she is centered, she is sure-footed when the seasons of her life change.  She adjusts without resistance or trepidation, valuing change as a necessary component of a life that explores and reaches its fullest potential.  She takes one day at a time.

To be continued...

The Definition of My Divatude by Jowana M.

Found this online and thought I'd share it....

Definition of My Divatude by Jowana M.

The definition of my divatude
is too profound for your comprehension
My walk, talk and sweet, sassy sway
My knowledge, my humility,
My capability to follow and my ability to lead

You mistook my soft-spoken speech
For uncertainty
My delightful disposition
For cowardice
But my complacency is not what you think

Assuming I do not know because I do not speak
I'd just rather not waste time on the
Lame, misguided, and weak

Yes, my divatude is too profound for your comprehension
Sorry I wasted your time
The man I thought you were
Was only a dream deferred
I will find a substantial mate
Of that I am sure

Welcome to the Divatude Boutique!

Welcome to the Divatude Boutique!
What in the world is the Divatude Boutique you ask? The Divatude Boutique is the up and coming premiere provider of sophisticated apparel, gifts, and accessories to enhance every aspect of your life! From your attire to your activities, attitude is everything and class and confidence should always shine from within. I believe that when you feel good on the inside, it'll show on the outside and the Divatude Boutique has everything you need to meet your full DIVA potential and ensure that they match!

My goal is to educate and entertain young women while helping them discover their inner Diva as well as to celebrate those that are already all too familiar with their own DIVA that lies within! I will be posting fashion styling tips and relationship advice, thought provoking questions and helpful links, pictures, as well as requesting feedback from each of you. There are enough blogs out there that focus simply on gossip and mess! I want to stay positive and attract those individuals who want the same. Though you may find that I critique some things, I never want to be perceived as a hater! I believe in allowing everyone to do their thing and rock it out as best they know how! I will express my opinion if I'm not a fan of something, but I don't expect anyone to necessarily follow my lead. There's nothing wrong with having an opinion-you just need to learn how to respect everyone else's and realize it's just that-an opinion, not a fact! Fellas you're invited to participate as well because ladies love to hear the male perspective so don't be shy!

This blog will also be used for market research as I am developing a fashion line with the plus-sexy size diva (size 14+) in mind, so I'll need to make sure that I am desiging items that cater to those of you who currently have difficulty with their current shopping experiences. Do you or someone that you know wear a size 9 shoe or higher? Have a wide or flat foot but every shoe fails to sufficiently support you? My shoe line is dedicated to you! Hopefully, I'll help to change your less than positive experiences or enhance it as this blog is all for and about you! Just remember- those that help me now, will have a big reward later: Free and discounted stuff!

Now that that is out of the way, you may ask what is an inner diva? How in the world do I go about discovering mine? Aren't divas vain? Do I really want to be a diva at all? All of these are valid questions and will be addressed in the days to come. So stay tuned! You can follow me on Twitter @DivaOfStyle. I'm still building the Facebook fan page, but it will be ready very soon! Thanks for stopping by! Blessings to you!